Online dating is old. Literally. People fed up with digital relationships call it O.L.D. (On-Line-Dating).
Technology has brought people closer together, but it still can’t replace face to face interaction from the workplace to your dating life. Here’s what experts and research have to say about dating in the modern era.
But don’t take our word for it! We’ve rounded up some of the most important research into the science of dating and it all points to the same conclusion—in-person experiences and face-to-face dating is the best way to find a healthy relationship!
Dating Apps Are A Tremendous Amount of Work
In Julie Beck’s excellent piece in The Atlantic, titled “The Rise of Dating-App Fatigue,” she explores how dating apps, with their seemingly endless variety of options, are actually making people feel overworked. Here’s a quote from the piece:
“Dating hasn’t become an apocalypse, it’s just become another way modern life can make people feel overworked. When the actual apocalypse eventually comes, perhaps it will be easier to recognize love when it’s looking at us over the rat carcasses we’re roasting on a spit over a trash can fire, when many of our options have been killed off by plagues or zombie hordes, for then no time we’re given will feel like a waste. Until then, there’s always Tinder.”
Even arguments in favor of dating apps come with the caveat that users have to do a ton of work. This might be fine if you’ve got nothing but time on your hands, but finding a meaningful connection is grueling work that takes time.
Technology Can’t Predict Compatibility
Some dating apps would like you to believe they are taking some of the guesswork and manual labor out of meeting someone you can connect with by using advanced compatibility algorithms. But recent research has found that these automated techniques are about as effective as meeting a stranger at a bar.
A researcher who worked on the study named Eli Finkel said: “Eighty years of relationship science has reliably shown you can’t predict whether a relationship succeeds based on information about people who are unaware of each other,” emphasizing the importance of a face-to-face meeting.
Love at First Sight Probably Isn’t Real
According to recent research, it’s more likely to be lust at first sight. Developing love requires shared connection and shared experience.
Most People Overestimate the Intelligence of Their Romantic Partner
No big takeaways here, it’s just kind of funny!
Lots of new dating sites and apps crop up over time, but they are all based on a foundational premise that just doesn’t work for most people.
Heartts is about in-person experience, an innovative approach based on tried and true methodology. This month’s content explains what makes Heartts so different from online dating sites and apps, and gets people excited to make real connections.
